If you hear anything today, hear this: you’re doing the best you can.
There’s no playbook for this. There’s no playbook for mass social distancing and staying inside and working from home and keeping kids engaged when there is no school. There’s a swirling of emotions changing by the day and sometimes changing by the hour.
There’s now no school for millions of students across our country, and I’ve seen:
There’s plenty of judgment to go around. Judging some for staying in and others for going out. Judging for decisions being made too fast and decisions being made too slow.
It’s here where Brene Brown’s wisdom can help you and me: believe everyone is truly doing the best they can.
What does doing your best look like?
It means giving each other grace.
It means everyone is unsettled, from those who are strict quarantine folks who haven’t gone out at all to those who think this could be a bit of an overreaction.
Give one another grace. The strict quarantine person does whatever it takes to flatten the curve person is likely immune compromised herself or he has a child or aging parents who this thing could very likely kill if they were to get it. And also the person who’s sharing “a keep calm and carry on” type mindset might own her own business that provides for her and her family and if they shut the doors or there’s mandate where people can’t come and do business, then their lives are over. They may not be dead, but it feels like it because everything they’ve worked, saved and planned for is now gone and there’s loss, grief and despair.
Believe everyone is doing the best they can. From those enjoying this extended sabbath as an ethereal reminder to slow down, to enjoy and connect with one another over UNO, books or a movie. To those mourning as they have a high school senior who may not get to go to prom, walk in graduation, or have an open house celebration. From those who have postponed weddings and adjusted funeral plans or to those who face uncertainty with seemingly trivial things like sports teams or music productions that are not just ways to stay busy but are important character shaping activities and their children enjoy and look forward to.
Today, if only for today, believe everyone is doing the best they can. Read their post, hear their comments, see their decisions through the lens of doing the best they can. And you do the best you can.
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