Mondays are for mistakes.
Today's mistake: waiting to be picked.
When’s the first time you remember not being good enough?
When’s the first time you gut cut from the team? Fired from a job? Passed over for a promotion? Didn’t get the solo or the part?
Maybe you were last to get picked for the team at recess.
Maybe you didn’t get the solo as a junior higher.
Maybe you got cut from the team in high school.
Maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted out of college.
One of my first memories of not being good enough was not making the high school basketball team as a sophomore. A lot of my identity was wrapped up in basketball. My folks sacrificed so I could have opportunities to get better as basketball. But when it came time for tryouts my sophomore year, I wasn’t good enough.
I think in life we wait to be picked. We think getting picked (getting the part, making the team, getting the promotion) validate us and when I am not picked, it somehow devalidates (not sure if that’s a word!) me.
Just last week I didn’t get picked for something I wanted to be a part of. And when I don’t get picked, I have a tendency to do two things. I either go into self-sabotage mode and say there must be something wrong with me. And that I suck. And that I am no good (no, I am not fishing for compliments here, just taking you into my mind a bit!).
Or, I quit.
Two things to wrap up with:
Share a time when you didn’t get picked for something in the comments
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